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I felt strongly attracted, and the guy did not lie at any stage, no false hopes for future together etc. Nevertheless, even when I entered, I knew it will be painful when it ends. And it was 3 months later. I am a bonding type of person, want to know my partner intimately and share my life with him, so no way will I do NSA sex. For some, just the fact, that the guy was clearly not interested in them as a person, but more like a sex object, caused them to feel used regardless of their consent even if sex was physically satisfying for them.

I haven't read the above article regarding male oxytocin release during sex, but in another one earlier I did read that the testosterone if released in large amount will counteract the released oxytocin - and hence certain males will not bond via sex whereas women do not have this "defense". Stereotypes are not the full picture, I agree. And for the same reason I also do not like some men writing about their need for casual sex as a generalised, all men's dream of thing. Non-functioning, boring, sexless, etc.

PUA community using tools of a sociopathic narcissist's mindset to basically rape women some using covert hypnosis, young, gullible, undereducated, psychologically troubled etc.

The difference I see between this and roofying someone, that with the drug it is more provable that abuse happened. One of the terms in PUA lingo clearly describes this: Some PUA gurus after a while get more chilled and end up in monogamous relationships but by then they contributed to tremendous abuse directly and indirectly for female victims as well as their customers.

Looking at Maslow's hierarchy, sex is a fundamental. Looking at health-focused research, sex is healthy and necessary. What do you do if you are alone? After one year with no one-on-one sex, I decided to try a casual arrangement. From the first, it was wonderful.

There are no undercurrents, and each of us can get out at any time, no questions asked. I am very happy. I am 54 and he is If women can be choosy about the height, physical appearance, and wealth of their casual sex partners, why shouldn't men be choosy about the past sexual conduct or "morals" of their potential long-term relationship partners? The so-called "double standard" works both ways. The simple fact is, women these days have more options and more choices than men.

That's why heterosexual bars and clubs have "ladies night" instead of "men's night". The women, not the men, get to do the choosing. At closing time on ladies night, a group of average, slightly shy, somewhat short men are sitting alone at the bar while the women have left with all the big, tall, square jawed athletic looking guys with big feet- the same guys who went home with different women after the last ladies night.

That's fine- we all should have the freedom to make our own choices, but we also have to face the consequences of our actions. I would like to point out that young boys don't dream about growing up and marrying girls for who they are sexual partner number 25 any more than daddy wants his little girl to grow up to be a porn star. And no amount of hypocritical, self-righteous "feminism"- short of a totalitarian "Brave New World"- is going to change that dynamic. While I don't approve of that group's behavior, I do think that what they are doing cannot in any way be compared to "rape" as you suggested.

Lying maybe, but rape, no. What you are implying is that women are too stupid to make their own choices or to see through childish head games. As someone who believes in the mental equality even superiority of women, I find your suggestion appalling.

If a woman feels "used" afterwards, perhaps that's a sign that she should be more choosy, or even delay a sexual involvement for some time until she's sure about the man's intentions. I'ts sad that women are falling for that sort of thing, but they made a choice, so live and learn. I think a lot of frustrated guys who lack self confidence, good looks, or stature are likely to try the "PUA" methodology, because they've felt rejected or hurt by women, and also they see the blatant hypocrisy in women's sexual behavior.

By hypocrisy, I mean the way women promote the idea of a finding a loving, committed partner i. The popularity of "PUA" tricks shouldn't be any more shocking than that of "penis enlargement" gimmicks which don't work; these industries prey upon gullible men with deep seated insecurities, fears which are often amplified by women's actual behavior.

The first glaringly problematic comment the author made, is that "in my personal experience, most women cannot have casual sex without feeling hurt if the other person doesn't call back and has no intention of doing so.

It is obvious from that sentence, that the author is butt-hurt about a guy Feeling ashamed of herself, she decided to extrapolate her experience to mean "most women must feel this way since that is how I feel.

I do not understand how one author's personal butt-hurt made it into a renowned magazine about Psychology as a general guideline.

I assure you, as a man, it is equally obnoxious to hook up with a girl you like and have her never show up again or call you back. It is a silly double standard to assume that women do not do this to men as well, to assume women do not sport-fuck you for a notch on their belt, because many of them will and you will not know about it until afterwards.

I also take issue with the whole "if she has to drink to have sex, maybe she shouldn't be having sex. People drink to lower inhibitions and get laid. It just happens that way.

Sex is fun when it's thrilling and has that "is this going to happen? A drunk man's inhibitions are not lowered any less than a drunk woman's, and for this reason I say I believe hooking up even when there is some form of attachment can be quite possible and, not only that, but very fulfilling. I am a young single mother and I have found that most of my relationships since my daughter was born, have been very short lived and meaningless.

There is one person who has become both, a friend, and a lover. He happens to be my daughter's father. We spend time as a family, but want nothing to do with a serious relationship between the two of us. We are simply two people who have a child together that occasionally share in a physically gratifying arrangement. If either one of is were to want to settle, we are more than welcome to walk away, and if not, we are both perfectly fine in our situation.

We can also feel free to hook up with other people if we so choose. It takes away the awkwardness of having to share ourselves with new people if we didn't want to, plus we both know what each other likes and it is just easy and fun.

The main problem with this article and many similar articles is the basic misinterpretation of oxytocin release.

Yes, oxytocin is released during orgasm and is a factor for women becoming attached to men. However, that attachment is a sexual attachment NOT an emotional attachment.

Having an orgasm, will make a woman want to have sex with that man again but it won't cause her to suddenly fall in love with him, want a committed relationship with him if she wasn't already , or become emotionally attached. The main problem is that there's still an underlying assumption that women become emotionally attached from sex.

As a result, what boys and girls are taught about sexual behavior and research on how men and women react to sex will almost always be interpreted from a biased viewpoint. An analogy would be if a crime was committed and the police automatically assumed from the start one man we'll call him Pete was the perp.

This would result in the police solely focusing on Pete, interpreting the evidence as proof of Pete's guilt ie the perp was a man I am 32 and female and have had 4 long term relationships 3 to 5 years though I really don't know why. I have zero desire to get married or have kids, never have. When I am single, which I am now, I have tons of fuck buddies and nsa sex, and they almost never have alcohol or drugs involved.

Ok, the occasional alcohol since bars are a good place to meet guys who want to hook up, but I don't get wasted. All of my relationships ended because I can't form proper emotional bonds to boyfriends and can't give them the love they need.

I had to break it off with them. So since I need sex I find men who I am completely honest with about my intentions: I may not want to see you again ever and if I do it'll just be for sex, I don't cuddle, I really don't want a relationship, and I'll be fucking other guys. I've only had one guy turn me down and we had already had sex a few times, it just took him a while to decide he didn't like that.

I never feel ashamed or dirty or like what I did was wrong in any way. I also never feel any attachment to these guys. I've considered that I may be a sex addict, but I'm always faithful while in a relationship. Just one girls experience. I can't seem to find anyone else with similar experiences. I have an experience to be in no obligations relationship.

I ended it in one month as it was impossible to keep myself completely dis attached emotionally from a man I liked and it was clear he was indifferent except for pure sex. Both of us are mature adults having adult kids; we have our financial independence, yet, it was weird for me to agree acting like I was no human. I can honestly say that when I have ex with a man, I never want to see him again. If I like a man and we get along great, I don't feel a sexual attraction to him.

If I do end up having sex with him, I never have anything to do with him again. It ruins our connection as far as I am concerned. I love sex, don't get wrong but it doesn't evoke any emotions from me.

It doesn't create a "bond" or any other connection to the man for me. To really enjoy sex, it has to be with a man I have only met once, maybe twice and then once we have committed the act I can't bear to think of seeing him again. I forgot to include in my original statement that I also cannot abide the "cuddling", the "afterglow" nonsense.

For me it's purely; Do the deed and get out. I prefer to meet where I control the fact that I immediately leave. I never let a man know where I live. I know, the number is shocking and not something I'm particularly proud of but neither am I ashamed by it. Yes is my answer, they can and the reason why my number is so high is because it's far too easy for women to. I can only speak for myself but I wouldn't say I'm a 'typical' female.

I have a drink problem for one. Never know when to stop and have blackouts. Half the time I don't even remember how I 'pulled' the guy. I'm shy and awkward around men when sober but when drunk become this horny, seductive and flirty may I say it nympho vixen. I don't sleep with men so they 'like' me. I do it because being sexually desired is intoxicating and alcohol makes me friggin horny.

I'm a complete hedonist. I'm also terrified of commitment and intimacy. Men mean to me controlling, angry and hard work I know this isn't true and doesn't apply to the majority of men but once you've been traumatised as a child it's extremely difficult to change this view on an emotional level. The irony is when I meet men and I tell them up front that this is a one off, I don't have anything more to give and let's just have a mutually pleasurable time - they then find me a challenge and start getting all serious.

As I've got older I've fine tuned the experience. I light candles, have a sex playlist and love dressing up in sexy outfits. The men always want to stay over and spend the night cuddling I do to, oxytocin is amazing! The trick is to make is mutually fun and not let anyone feel used. I make the men feel special and that's reciprocated.

Women, it goes like this: That price is lower perceived value in the eyes of higher quality potential mates. And yes, that's a two-way street, except a man with many "conquests" becomes more--not less--desirable in the eyes of women who wrongly assume the Lothario must truly be someone special. You are assuming that everyone spills their guts about their private lives to everyone they meet. If I were to begin dating a man, there is no reason for me to tell him anything about other men and I feel the same way about his other women.

I care about the person I am meeting now, not the person that existed a year ago or 5 years ago. Not any of my business.

What a misogynistic view to call it "whoring around". Get out of the 18th century. At the beginning, you're putting your best foot forward, just as you would during a job interview, the function of non-hook-up dating.

People have a right to their privacy, but if you're interested in sharing a future with someone, you're going to need to know what kind of person they are. In addition to what that "special someone" tells you, there are many ways to glean this, including observing their interactions with family, friends, strangers, etc.

While not guaranteed, past behavior and experience are the most useful in predicting current and future behavior. For some women, reading my comments is their first encounter with a voice who pulls no punches and tells it like it is. I take this responsibility seriously. If a woman sleeps around, she's probably going to remain on that wavelength. If it makes her happy, great. But generally speaking, a chippy doesn't make a good gf or wife the same way a Lothario won't make a decent husband.

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Are You a Beautiful Questioner? Can Women Really Do It? Hookup culture is not for everyone. Submitted by Anonymous1 on November 20, - 1: I imagine that casual sex is more depressing for single women When comparing men and women, Submitted by Anonymous on July 7, - 1: The truth is that women are stigmatized and most men don't begin to qualify for stigma. There were a couple other reports there worth a read Submitted by Martian Bachelor on November 22, - 4: Don't even think of trying the converse male-biology-as-female-destiny approach.

Never generalize Submitted by Anonymous on November 20, - When the author says Submitted by severin on November 21, - 1: In general Submitted by Eric on November 21, - 2: Generality is the mother of wisdom. And it is job of a child to question wisdom with wishes. Adult sex Submitted by Anonymous on June 4, - 2: Too narrow of a population Submitted by Olive on November 21, - 1: Social judgments Submitted by Eric on November 21, - 2: Nothing is free in this world.

So I guess free love is something fools try to find. Women have been having casual sex in all times, but it has been condemned by society and therefore kept under the "blankets" I am a mature woman of 45y, with 4 kids. This article repeats the same Submitted by Anonymous on June 19, - 6: I agree that many women can Submitted by Ruth C.

Older Woman Submitted by Anonymous on July 11, - 1: I take a few issues with this article. Trust me, it sucks. That article is Feminist Garbage! I believe hooking up even Submitted by Anonymous on February 13, - 2: Oxytocin misinterpreted Submitted by Anonymous on June 28, - 5: How is it treating people like objects if one of the rules is to respect your partner? How about that one of the rules is to ensure you pleasure your partner again, respect?

I think everyone here has made it clear that you're on your own on this one. No one is telling you that you have to partake in this activity; keep your absurd self-righteousness to yourself from now on, thanks, and let others enjoy their lives.

Two mature adults doing something concentual and in mutual agreement is too much for you to handle? You're acting like one partner is a victim here. Makes me wonder if your comments have ulterior motives. Whether you personally agree or disagree with the concept of friends with benefits, maybe you should consider something: Maybe your lifestyle is actually not what everyone wants?

This might amaze you, but just wait There are people out there Just like me and you.. And these people can be both male and female I'm in a long term relationship that I hope lasts for the rest of my life, but if it ended tomorrow I certainly couldn't be stuffed screwing around with real relationships for a while, but I sure as hell wouldn't become a nun just to satisfy curkas desire for all humans to be monogamous and married.

Hahaha oh wow, are you really this dense? That is amazing, bravo. You're wrong but thank you for sharing you high-horse I'm better than you attitude to people who don't care.

I have had several casual buddies and we're all still friends, share Christmas together, birthdays and now some of us are in relationships we all still out together because we're adults.

You just must've never been able to have one so yo're jealous and lashing out at other due to your envy. WOW, its not that im uncomfortable with articles like this one or indeed articles from other sites talking about exactly the same thing, its just this one! The way this article reads, its all shaped and informed by the authors own experiences to fight emotional urges or down play another attempt at exhibiting their own.

Sure you might find somebody looking for exactly the same thing from the arrangement but the odds on that are slim. The reality is that somebody more than likely going to be the loser. The research has been done on this stuff, the more sexual relationships maintains the more likely they are to have low self esteem, mental health issues, and drug and alcohol problems.

Plenty of research has been published to support this view point. For example this one from NZ, http: Firstly, yes this is an opinion piece about someone's experiences and advice - it is not a guide put out by a government body. Anybody who is stupid enough to take this all literally and apply the experiences without seeing if it is suitable for them should probably not be risking the chance of reproducing.

Regarding increased numbers of sexual partners: You do understand that association does not equal causality? They do go on to discuss this and other possible causes but I guess you just prefer to link to something that most people won't look at but will assume backs your argument up. Obviously youve never been put through the bul some of us others have been through. I recommend you dont judge untill youve been theough what makes us people want this rather than complicating things with love.

Did u read, prudence it is a deal between two is not like we are laying to sleep with others. We invest on each others time, we txt talk all the time , we have cute nicknames , what we dont have is any drama no strings it is the best feeling Is not only sex for us is also having the company and been able to talk to eachother when we meet.

And of course good sex toms and tons of it. You should try it sometime prudence. This article is not for people like you clearly. Have you ever been in a long term relationship with someone you love bit feel so frustrated by your love life you just cry because sex is short and one sided Great your needs are being met..

My gf and I started out as playmates and we're now looking at moving in together. If you're both after the same thing the upgrade can work beautifully. I don't know about your morality but I find it hard to present myself completely righteous at all when it's happened.

I mean there are at least moral grey areas here and I'd hate to insinuate this but it seems a tad self-righteous to be so blase about sex. I mean is it better if it means something or if it means nothing? Isn't it just a marketing ploy for articles when they present sexual gratification as a basic human right? Isn't it easy to say or promote whatever you want when you absolve yourself of any kind of responsibility for it?

Just because we are free to do whatever we want, does that mean we let go of all restraint and remove humanity from our relationships? Do we treat people like a snack? Keep in mind these are personal feelings about myself in this situation, not passing judgement. I guess I don't find human beings so interchangeable and I guess I can't.

Have you ever had a friend who you only really liked in one context? Like you enjoy playing golf with them but aside from that you don't really enjoy any of the same things or have that much in common. You don't stop playing golf with them or treat them like they're not a 'real' friend, you just only really get together when you both feel like playing golf.

It's not that they're interchangeable vaginas or anything, it's just that the friendship doesn't really go that much deeper than being horny, into the same stuff, STD free and enjoying each others company. It's not the most satisfying thing in the world, honestly by this point in my life I'd hoped to be married and settled down, but sex is fun and if I'm going to be single I might as well be enjoying it.

The advice in this seems to be 'don't accidentally fall in love or care about them. Seems like terrible advice. Even if it is inconvienient or awkward, why would you take the feelings you say you felt when flirting with them, but not the ones signalling maybe you were actually a good fit?

If you're naturally only sex buddies, then that's fine But if something else naturally develops.. I think doing so and not 'going with it' wherever any relationship leads by imposing artificial limitations makes anyone man or woman who does so pretty much a whore, as opposed to someone lacking physical affection seeking some, or exploring a new relationship whatever level it may end up at.

Or you could not make up stupid rules. Those are precisely the sort of games I'm avoiding in relationships. Make a friend, have sex with them and continue to treat them like a friend. Deal with everything else on the fly just like any other friendship. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't, the relationship almost always changes over time, just like any other friendship. If you find yourself having to say 'don't fall in love' every night or 'don't get jealous' then all these sorts of rules do is bottle up those feelings and cause stress.

Just admit that maybe you'd like it if things were exclusive but still not a traditional relationship. If you've got the next day off work and think going out for breakfast the next morning as friends might be pleasant, a rule saying no staying past 3AM that you both only agreed to because you weren't sure how to make it all work isn't going to change that. It's not casual sex if there's a massive rulebook.

For me the entire point is that I can say exactly what I mean without dancing around with all these games. If you can say 'I'm pretty stressed, you want to come over and help me bang it out? In the last days there will be those who call evil good and good evil. One more article like this and I'm outahere! Going to quote an earlier commenter: I think it just depends on the luck to find such a man or woman as the story reveals, personally I myself met a man through this dating site in Australia called MeetOutside http: Sep 13, , Australian Stories dating feature lovehacker relationships sex.

What the hell, her legs are closed in the stock photo! She could be the one on top. She's got pretty big feet if that's the case, A sasquatch in the sack? With the right equipment, that's not a problem The bloke's obviously broken one of the rules haha. Sorry, but now I'm incredibly sad.

Chris Jager chrisjager MOD. I do smell jelly: You're going to need a lot more jelly than you thought. Jelly is not to be consumed. Sep 14, , I think someone needs to get laid Or is this a case of "onward Christian soldiers"?

Maybe you should stop trying to push your beliefs on other people. They can both have different values than what you have, and that doesn't make them bad people. You will grow and learn. Secondly - did you even read that paper? Free at last Guest. Apr 25, , Last edited September 13, 5: Last edited September 13, 2: More news at 11?

Oh no, the religious nut is going to leave! Sep 15, , Hilariously outdated morality arguments aside, I'm not sure this qualifies as a Life Hack Especially as you could just wank. You are starting a new discussion. A thrusting young buck at work recently approached me to ask for some tips on toning up.

He does a lot of exercise but lives pretty generously. That means, whatever his body asks him for, he generously provides. As a result he has cultivated something of a "Dadbod" and has now decided to take action to stem the tide. A couple of days ago, put up a list of five things I wish Apple would steal from Microsoft when it comes to their main personal computing operating system.

Now it's time to turn the tables. Although both macOS and Windows are no very mature operating systems with over three decades of development, there's plenty of things that macOS has that could make Windows 10 better.

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Modern research reveals that it happens to men too, not only women! I am discreet, I am safe. The price Submitted by Mansplainer on March 12, - 5: It should be noted that in the Reid, Elliot and Webber study neither men or women seem to be particularly happy with NSA sex but women are less happy. They do go on to best escort aussie escorts this and other possible causes but I guess you just prefer to link to something that most people won't look at but will assume backs your argument up. I'm also terrified of commitment and intimacy. Emotions are hardly relevant.

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