Taking Initiative What little luck I'd had so far. Police believed Mr Spencer was victim of a targeted attack. I began to suspect that no women actually used the site. One day my message was intended to be sweet and normal; I suggested starting with drinks and fun conversation to see if we had chemistry, then going back to my place to cuddle on the couch with a movie and see where that led. You've probably guessed by now that the experiences for heterosexual men and women on Craigslist's casual encounters are quite different.